I Have Failed at Growing Natural Hair

Posted by Kalen Spate on

I’ve failed at trying to be natural...


Yes, that’s right. 


I still have natural hair now. However, achieving natural hair wasn’t easy for me. My current hair journey is actually my SECOND attempt at achieving natural hair. Today, I want to give you guys the tips on what NOT to do so that you don’t have to fail your first time trying to go natural as I did.


Tip #1 - Your Hair is Not Your Hair Anymore


People can change and so can your hair. You have first realize that your hair is not going to be the same anymore. You have to remember to give yourself a break on the journey to growing natural hair. For most, their natural hair is something they’ve never seen before. Some people spend hours or days looking at old baby photos and watching tutorials of what they want to do with their natural hair. You can’t fall into this trap. The truth is that it will get hard before it becomes easy. The first 6 months of transitioning can really make or break a persons hair journey. So it’s important to remember your hair is not your hair anymore. Your job in this phase of the journey is not to act like the expert on your hair. Your job is to keep it healthy and let it grow. Don’t grow angry when your favorite styles are no longer cute on you. Don’t grow frustrated when your products start giving different outcomes. Remember, your hair is not your hair anymore. It has to grow out and you have to learn to care for your new hair differently.


Tip#2 Transitioning styles aren’t always very cute. 


It’s so easy to make the decision to go natural and then get super excited to try all the latest natural hairstyles. If this was your goal when transitioning to natural, you may be very disappointed in the beginning of your journey. For the first 6 months, your hair textures are imbalanced. You have more relaxed ends than natural hair. Your main goal for transitioning has to be maintaining healthy hair and blending textures, not cute styles. This is most that decide to transition fail. It’s either  because their wash day was to hard or their styles weren’t cute. So go into the journey knowing that your styles aren’t going to be cute and that your wash days will have a learning curve. 


Tip #3 Deep Condition Your Roots. Deep Condition Your Roots. Deep Condition Your Roots!


This is why it could be bad for those transitioning to natural to solely watch tutorials and look at people who are already natural when searching for tips. Most naturals focus conditioner on the ends of the hair shaft. The ends of the hair are the oldest part of the hair and need the most care. So this good. However, it’s not so good for those transitioning to natural. You should be deep conditioning your entire head. You should especially deep condition your roots. Your roots will be your new ends once your relaxed hair is trimmed away. 


Tip #4 - The Line of Demarcation: Balance is Key


It’s important to know about the line of demarcation if you’re transitioning to natural hair. The line of demarcation is the intersection  where the relaxer hair meets your natural hair. This point of the hair is very fragile. Many transitioned experience breakage at this point in their journey. So what one must know is that any added stress of weight to this point will cause breakage. To successfully transition you want to make sure that as your natural hair grows in you are trimming the relaxed ends away. You also want to make sure that your protective styles if you choose to go this route aren’t adding to much weight on the line of demarcation. If your goal is transition long term which is more than 6 months, you want to keep the line of demarcation strong my decreasing daily manipulation and balancing protein based products with moisture based products in your hair regimen. 



For more information on transitioning to natural check out my YouTube channel where I have videos on transitioning to natural hair and the products that I used. 


See You Next Sunday, 


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